The way I see it anytime you can help someone do something that they are not able to do it is always a good thing. You are giving a couple a beautiful gift that they will forever be grateful to you for. So no it is not bad. I think that anyone that feels negative about that type of situation probably doesn't understand it. And because they don't want to seem less intelligent they try to make you feel bad about what you are doing. In all honesty I have thought about being a surrogate mother at times, but only for the money. You on the other hand are doing it because you want to help someone whose body obviously cant handle carrying a baby. And because of your generosity you will get a reward from it.
The thing I always say to myself when ever I have doubts about doing something is that If I feel good about what it is that I am doing then that's all that matters. It is no one else's business what you are doing with your body. And if they cant understand that then there not real friends. So do you and be happy about it.
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Saturday, June 18, 2011
Why wont he marry me?
Wow, when I started this blog yesterday I didn't think I would get some questions this fast. The person who emailed me wrote that she and her boyfriend had been together for over 4 years and she's deeply in love with him. She wants to get married and she wants him to ask her, but the way things are going she doesn't think that he ever will.
Well here's how I feel. I think that if you guys are in a committed relationship then he should know by now if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.But there are some men who just don't know if marriage is what they want. Maybe he is just scared to ask you. Have you talked to him about it? He seem like a really good guy from what you wrote to me. So again give him time, but not too much. Some men think that as long as they keep you happy you wont worry about marriage. I have been in the same situation for over 10 years. But the only difference is that we have 2 kids together and we live together. I love him and that is one reason why I want to get married and the fact that we have kids together and lately we have been talking about buying a new car and moving into a house. And I told him before we make anymore life changing decisions we should think about being married. We are also thinking about staring a business soon. And what if something happens to where we end up breaking up? I mean I don't want to , but I wont have really any say so as to what I get because I'm just his girlfriend. Those aren't the only reasons i want to get married, but I feel like if I continue investing my all into something that isn't going to last then i will be the one bankrupt in the end.
If you can see yourself being with this one person and only this person then why not make it official?
Well here's how I feel. I think that if you guys are in a committed relationship then he should know by now if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.But there are some men who just don't know if marriage is what they want. Maybe he is just scared to ask you. Have you talked to him about it? He seem like a really good guy from what you wrote to me. So again give him time, but not too much. Some men think that as long as they keep you happy you wont worry about marriage. I have been in the same situation for over 10 years. But the only difference is that we have 2 kids together and we live together. I love him and that is one reason why I want to get married and the fact that we have kids together and lately we have been talking about buying a new car and moving into a house. And I told him before we make anymore life changing decisions we should think about being married. We are also thinking about staring a business soon. And what if something happens to where we end up breaking up? I mean I don't want to , but I wont have really any say so as to what I get because I'm just his girlfriend. Those aren't the only reasons i want to get married, but I feel like if I continue investing my all into something that isn't going to last then i will be the one bankrupt in the end.
If you can see yourself being with this one person and only this person then why not make it official?
Friday, June 17, 2011
Withholding Sex
Now this first entry is a question that I thought about while reading a book. I'm sure many of you have heard of it "Sex Chronicles" by Zane. In the book there was a statement made about women who withhold sex from their partners for various reasons and the partners just going out and getting it from somewhere else. So my question is Do you think it is fair for a man to go out and sleep with someone else jsut because his wife or girlfriend is not giving him any? Furthermore are we as women supposed to accept that our man is going out and getting it from another female because we are not allowing him to have any of our goods?
To answer my own question I would say that first off I am against infidelity. No matter what your reason is for being unfaithful whether we are married or not it is unexcusable. so with having said that you probably know where I am headed. If you really love a person and that person doesnt want to give you any then you would just suck it up and not worry about it or just play with yourself. A relationship shouldnt be all about sex anyways because the moment when sex is not a factor you two should be able to entertain each other with other things that doesnt involve moaning and humping. And that also brings up this little thought. if sex is the only thing a man cares about in his relationship that means that the minute you decide not to have sex anymore he will be out the door. do you really want a man that will leave you over sex? I know I dont.
That's why many real couples who love each other get to know one another before the sex is even thought of. Therefore when neither of them can get any it wont be a problem and that when the talking and cuddling comes in. So get with it or get off it. Thanks for listening.
To answer my own question I would say that first off I am against infidelity. No matter what your reason is for being unfaithful whether we are married or not it is unexcusable. so with having said that you probably know where I am headed. If you really love a person and that person doesnt want to give you any then you would just suck it up and not worry about it or just play with yourself. A relationship shouldnt be all about sex anyways because the moment when sex is not a factor you two should be able to entertain each other with other things that doesnt involve moaning and humping. And that also brings up this little thought. if sex is the only thing a man cares about in his relationship that means that the minute you decide not to have sex anymore he will be out the door. do you really want a man that will leave you over sex? I know I dont.
That's why many real couples who love each other get to know one another before the sex is even thought of. Therefore when neither of them can get any it wont be a problem and that when the talking and cuddling comes in. So get with it or get off it. Thanks for listening.
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