In any relationship whether you are just friends or more than friends you still have to maintain a certain amount of respect for each other. And going through one another’s personal items such as: their phone, wallets, and purses not only shows that you don’t have respect for them, but that you also don’t trust them at all.
The reason I say you don’t trust them is because you don’t just decide to go through your partners things just for the heck of it or just cause you can. That would make you really nosy or just disrespectful all together. But majority of the time we are looking for something and I hate to say this, but the we I am talking about are women. Don’t get me wrong men have their little moments when they go digging, but 99% of the time it’s the women who are searching and prying to find an answer or some answers to the assumptions that are spinning around in our head. And let’s just be honest the first sign that we get that makes us think something is going on with our spouse and someone else we go looking. We can’t wait to catch that cellphone sitting on the dresser while you are in the shower or asleep. It’s like a burning sensation eating away at our minds and it’s not going to stop until we either find what we assuming or nothing at all and then we feel relieved. The funny thing is that instead of us just confronting out boyfriend or girlfriend we decide to take on the role of detective ourselves because we also assume that asking our loved ones isn’t going to give us an honest answer.
And like I stated before that all boils down to trust. When you don’t trust each other you begin to lose respect for one another. And in the process of it all you don’t seem to care anymore because all you know is that you don’t think this person is being honest about anything. Half of the time you don’t even have any proof or physical evidence you just feel like something is wrong so you start acting like it. I will admit that sometimes the partner is responsible for making you feel this way because people don’t just start feeling uncertain about a situation for nothing. Even if they are not doing anything wrong their actions can make you believe that they are being dishonest or unfaithful. Lying for no reason is one factor that can make a person think you are being dishonest and not showing them any type of love or care can cause a person to think that you don’t care for them. And when a person starts to feel like you don’t care or you’re lying about something, they become suspicious. And sometimes their suspicions are correct and at times they are not.
I believe that whether you are suspicious about your spouse or just being nosy give them some privacy. Especially if you think they are lying about something and instead of being man enough or woman enough to confront the situation on our own you go snooping. Sometimes when someone is being honest and sincere with you and they find out you have been digging through their clothes and cellphone they can lose respect and trust for you as well. And I know from experience that the worst thing about being in a relationship where you don’t trust your partner is being in one where neither of you trust each other. So unless you are not willing to step up and ask what you want to know then leave it alone at least until you get the nerve to. Regardless of what type of person you are with everyone deserves some type of privacy. Plus I am sure that you wouldn’t want your boyfriend or girlfriend going behind your back looking for evidence that you are being dishonest especially when you know that you aren’t.
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