When I was younger, I did not really understand why it was so important for most people to get married before they made any real big decisions together. I used to think that even if you are not married you should still be able to buy a car or a house together. And honestly, you still can, but depending on the person you are or the person you are with, I would suggest making some commitments before making any commitments. I am sure you understand.
It is okay to be just a girlfriend or boyfriend, but if you are married then you have a little more say so in each other’s lives. I mean especially if you can see yourself being with someone for the rest of your life. At least give them some kind of voice in your relationship. I remember watching a television show one night and this couple had been together over 30 years and never married. They had houses together and cars, no kids, but then the husband dies and his family come in taking over everything. From his funeral arrangements to where to put all of his belongings. Of course, the girlfriend got to keep the house because it was in both their names. But just imagine if that were you and your loved one dies and the family comes in and pushes you out the way saying you have no control because you weren’t married. Alternatively, what if when you met him or her they had a business, but when you came in and helped his business grow and flourish into a giant corporation? And when he dies, you have no rights to anything because he never got around putting your name on anything and you two were too in love to even think about the day when one of you would no longer be here. And here you are left to raise his kids by yourself and after having been with him all these years you are left with nothing and the worst part, his family gets everything pertaining to his business. For those of you who think that should not be the only reason t want to be married that is not. You should want to be married because you love someone and it would be nice if your kids knew that their parent aren’t just boyfriend and girlfriend they are husband and wife. However, after seeing those two situations that just made me want to get married even more. Honestly, I should have been married 7 years ago, but it is not up to me. But let’s be real marriage is just like a business partnership. You go into business together and when you decide to part ways, you split everything. Especially if you have helped this business become what it is today and you get nothing out of the deal. It is not fair. Even if the person is not wealthy, you still want to be able to have some say so when it’s needed. You don’t want to walk around the whole relationship after four kids, a house, and a dog and you’re still just the girlfriend. It’s not a good feeling. I know personally. My mistake was that I didn’t set the tone earlier into the relationship and now 11 years later everyone is so comfortable in the zone they're in that it’s going to take a lot more to get things going.
So get married first. These days things tend to happen in reverse and that’s okay as long as the marriage happens eventually. Then after the marriage you can focus on the kids, the house, and the dog. It’s all about love, but you’ve got to be smart about the situation also.
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