Is it okay to have multiple partners for multiple things?

There are many people out there who think that having multiple people for different reasons in their life.  And I am not talking about your everyday people like your friends and family either. These people are intimately involved with some of these people in order to get what they want. And sometimes a person can have 2, 3, or maybe even more of these so called “partners” depending on the life that they are living.

There’s the pay my bills guy who is just around enough to be available when the bills are do. He is alright in the looks department, but not your type. You don’t spend a lot of time with this person except when it’s that time of the month and you don’t want your bills to be late. And when he wants to spend time with you you make up an excuse. He is either too blind to see through your façade or just in need of love to confront you on it and put a stop to it. Then there is the dude that you have around only because he is good in bed. And coincidentally he is okay with that because that was all he had in mind as well. There is no emotional connection, it is all just physical. You do not go on dates because it is just sex. In fact you probably don’t even see this person for more than an hour at a time. He comes over, you do what you have to do and then he leaves. No cuddling afterwards, no talk about intimate subjects just sex. Nothing at all. Oh, and we can’t forget the person whom you actually date. He’s the one that takes you out to dinner and the movies. He comes over and cooks for you. However, there is just one problem; he does not have enough money to pay your bills and his. Hence the reason you have the pay my bills guy. In addition, the only reason you have not had sex yet is because he is not good at it or he has not mad e a move. And that’s the reason for guy #2. Last, but not least is the actual person you want to be with, but he is not into you like that. This is the person you give your heart to. This is the person that you talk to when you need a shoulder to lean on, but to him you are just a friend. And you don’t tell him about the other men in your life because that will only make things even more complicated between you two. You pray every day that he will notice you as more than just the girl he talks to.

Here’s the thing there are men out there who could be all that you need. You just have to find the right one or let him find you. Dealing with more than one person not only hurts you, but the person you are with. And even though now you probably don’t understand how it would feel to be the other person. If it were you unless you are a cold person you wouldn’t want to find out that you are number 3 in someone roll book.  So just try to take care of yourself and when it’s time for you to be with the right person he will come to you.