What kind of cheater is he?

First off let me just say that I despise cheaters in every way possible. I don’t believe that there is any excuse that will make being unfaithful okay. And though I don’t agree with many people when they say that once a cheater always a cheater the idea of someone cheating on their girl or boy friend still doesn’t sit right with me. There are exactly two kinds of cheaters in the world today. There’s the cheater who goes around dogging women or men like its nothing and then you have the one time only cheater that slipped up and had a moment of weakness. Yes, they are both cheaters no matter what way you say it, spell it or look at it, but they are different in many ways.

Now cheater number one is just down right doggish. They get a thrill out of being with multiple, beautiful women and when they can’t they do who ever where ever. These people don’t know how to care for just one person because they have never been taught how to care for one person.  All they think about is themselves and no one else’s feelings matter. And don’t try to get them to put their selves in your shoes because it still not going to make a difference. Being with different people while in a relationship with someone already is a challenge to them. And having the ability to attract members of the other sex whether they are dating, engaged or married is an even bigger achievement to some of these cheaters. It would take a special person to make a person stop cheating. But it takes a longer time for them to realize they have a problem and solve it.

Cheater number two isn’t an angel or saint, but they know when they have messed up and isn’t afraid to admit it or apologize when they need to. These are people that don’t intend on cheating it just happens. And again I’m not saying that just because they don’t mean to be unfaithful that gives them an excuse to be forgiven. I am saying that it’s easier to forgive someone who has no plans of cheating versus someone who makes it his life mission to cheat. Let me also be clear and say that just because you forgive someone doesn’t mean you have to be with them.  It’s just good to know that you hold no grudges with that person and you do understand that they are sorry. Also one time cheaters usually never cheat again. They tend to learn their lessons on their own without you having to teach them. I think that’s because they have something called a conscious. That’s not to say that you can go back to them if you wanted to, but you would be okay to because these guys or girls are really sincere at heart.

Just remember one thing though, no matter what kind of a cheater he or she is it is not okay. I am just giving my own opinion as to what kind of person deserves to be forgiven and given another chance, if you really believe that this person truly loves and cares for you and won’t make the mistake again.